Single ladies need to realise that finding the right one is NOT simply about meeting the right one.
Most singles if you ask them would tell you that the reason they are single is because they have not met the right one. However, meeting is just one of the three components. The other two components are ‘being the right one’ and ‘choosing the right one’. I have met many singles who come to use our services. Some of them successfully meet someone, and some don’t.
After some analysing, we realise that people who actually meet someone through us, they are generally:
- Open minded and have a positive attitude
- Flexible when it comes to their dating preferences and criteria
- Take each date as an enjoyable experience of meeting a new friend
- Partner with their dating consultant by providing honest feedback and also receiving feedback given by the dating consultant
1. Time is not on their side. As much as they would like to build a successful career, they must also give priority to their social life.
2. First impressions matter to men. As much as we do not want to change ourselves, we should appreciate that men are very visual creatures, and hence there’s no harm putting our best foot forward in each date.
3. Dating is a numbers game. You need to meet people to meet the right one. If you spend your Saturday night at home doing your laundry, your Prince Charming is not going to jump out of the washing machine!
4. There is no shame in increasing your own chances of success in finding the right partner. Let me ask you, if you were to go for a job interview, wouldn’t you put on your best suit? Style your hair? Brush up on your CV? Prepare for your answers? Arrive on time? Isn’t your lifelong happiness worth at least the same effort as looking for a job?
At the end of the day, you need to realise this… when you are single and alone, your boss will not be there to look after you. I know all the bosses out there are not very happy with me right now! You have to love yourself more. You need to prioritise your time!
I was asked this question at a talk I gave recently… “Violet, is it possible to have it all? A career, a marriage and a family?”
The answer is… a resounding ‘YES!’However, in order to achieve that, you have to look at your priorities. It’s not going to happen if you spend all your waking moments at work! If you want to have it all, you need to spend equal time on both work and social!
Many people out there will be wet blankets, maybe even saying, “Are you so desperate?” But just let them say whatever they want to say. In one of my favourite books, “Tuesdays with Morrie’ by Mitch Albom, there’s something Morrie said that will always stick in my mind… “Create your own culture!” The world is sometimes not a very nice place… people will put us down, or make us conform to what is known as the norm. However, you don’t need to conform to other people’s culture. Create your own… and go out there and find your own happiness!